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Feeling Lots Of….Feelings? Journaling Can Help
The term "journaling" encompasses a lot of different things: the list of birds you've seen in your neighborhood; the descriptions of sights you saw on your last vacation; the notes you jotted down about the dream you had last night. But the general, tried and true everything is a bit much in my life right now, and I have to write it down type of journaling can really help when, well, everything is a bit much.
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After 2016, People Are Rethinking How They’ll Spend Election Night This Year
Ask me what I was doing on November 7, 2016, and I’d shrug. Another day lost to the march of my life. But November 8 remains vivid, a montage that has gotten far too many replays: The morning stroll to the polls before catching the subway to work. The margaritas at a Mexican restaurant in Queens. The glimpse of Florida’s returns on the TV screen as we left. For me, as for many others, the day of the 2016 presidential election is completely unforgettable. “It’s like the JFK assassination or 9/11,” Robert McClellan, podcast host and authorof Leaving Trump’s America, tells OprahMag.com. ...
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Is Everybody Doing … OK? Let’s Ask Social Media
Which was the saddest day of them all? This is the question you may be asking yourself, surveying the wreckage of 2020 thus far. There are so many contenders to consider: was it Thursday, March 12, the day after Tom Hanks announced he was sick and the N.B.A. announced it was canceled? Was it Monday, June 1, the day peaceful protesters were tear gassed so that President Trump could comfortably stroll to his Bible-wielding photo op? Actually, it was neither, according to the Computational Story Lab of the University of Vermont. Instead, the lab offers this answer: Sunday, May 31.
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‘The WEIRDest People in the World’ Review: Marriage Story
We may think that the culture of a society or civilization grows out of a variety of forces—social, political, historical, even biological. But what if culture is itself a potent force, one that, in part, shapes the others? “Culture,” Joseph Henrich writes, “can and does alter our brains, hormones, and anatomy, along with our perceptions, motivations, personalities, [and] emotions.” He assumes, for instance, a high degree of literacy in his readers and thus confidently describes certain features of their brains: e.g., slight abnormalities in the left ventral occipito-temporal region, part of a structure that favors verbal memory and analytic processing skills.
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Getting Rid Of Head Trash: Five Thoughts That Are Holding You Back
“You have no idea how unfocused I am. I can’t finish a task to save my life. I’m sure it is because of how lazy I am. I have always been prone to distraction.” I am on a zoom call with my client, Carry, listening to her talk through her most recent challenge prioritizing at work. “I know my colleagues think I’m focused,” Carry continues, when I point to the results of her recent evaluation, showing positive marks in drive, focus and follow-through. “But they don’t know the real me. It might look that way from the outside, but if they could see inside my head, they would know the truth.” Thoughts drive behaviors and behaviors drive impact.
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Bring Fun Back Into Your Friendships—Despite the Covid Pandemic
Dear Ask Bonds, I miss my friends. Social distancing makes it hard—and not that fun—to get together. And it’s not even an option to see friends who live far away—no one can travel because of the pandemic. But there’s another problem: Everyone is so stressed and overwhelmed these days that we can’t find time to talk on the phone. Weeks go by without contact! And when we talk, all we do is share our worries. The lack of connection with the friends I love is really getting me down. What can I do? —Cut Off in PA Dear Cut Off, You’re not the only one!
