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Are you a niceaholic?
Chicago Tribune: You could always count on Kathy Church. When friends called to vent, she would pick up the phone. When there was a crisis at work, she'd dig in. When family members got together, she'd show up no matter how much she didn't want to. Church was always game and always nice. But as she veered into chronic people-pleasing, it ate away at the good will she was trying so hard to cultivate. Unwilling to say no to any request, Church grew stressed, unable to sleep, and resentful of the people who were taking her time and of herself for letting it be taken.
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Loneliness of power is a myth: Holding a lofty position ‘brings people happiness by making them feel more like their true selves’
The Daily Mail: Far from being lonely at the top, people with power are happier than those without it, researchers have found. Wielding power brings contentment and leads people to believe that they can be true to themselves. Researchers conducted experiments to find out if holding a position of authority enhanced well-being through an increased feeling of authenticity. Yona Kifer, of Tel Aviv University in Israel, and colleagues predicted that because the powerful can ‘navigate their lives in congruence with their internal desires and inclinations’, they feel as if they are acting more authentically – more like ‘themselves’ – and are therefore more content.
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Dating sites remake the introductions
The Boston Globe: In the middle of the day, your phone rings. It’s an unfamiliar number. New York area code. “Hello,” a robotic voice says, “It’s Mr. Brooks from Tawkify. Don’t turn around. Act natural.” The voice instructs you to wear a dress tomorrow night for your date: a poetry slam at the Cantab Lounge. Make sure to carry a favorite poetry book. Your suitor will be wearing a baseball hat and carrying a notepad. “Don’t be late or I can’t answer for the consequences,” the voice says. ...
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A Positive Family Climate in Adolescence Is Linked to Marriage Quality in Adulthood
Experiencing a positive family climate as a teenager may be connected to your relationships later in life, according to new research published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science. While research has demonstrated long-term effects of aggression and divorce across generations, the impact of a positive family climate has received less attention. Psychological scientist Robert Ackerman of the University of Texas at Dallas and colleagues wanted to examine whether positive interpersonal behaviors in families might also have long-lasting associations with future relationships.
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Modern Lessons From Arranged Marriages
The New York Times: WHETHER arranged marriages produce loving, respectful relationships is a question almost as old as the institution of marriage itself. In an era when 40 to 50 percent of all American marriages end in divorce, some marriage experts are asking whether arranged marriages produce better relationships in the long run than do typical American marriages, in which people find each other on their own and romance is the foundation. Experts also ask whether there are lessons in how arranged marriages evolve that can be applied to nonarranged marriages in the United States.
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Researchers: Get some sleep, and your partner will thank you
Los Angeles Times: It's no secret that poor sleep gets in the way of all kinds of good things in life. People who drive on too little sleep -- and there are a lot of us -- are more likely to be in accidents that result in injuries than people who've had enough rest. When we haven't slept well, we make lousy food choices and have trouble metabolizing our food. Staying up too late studying actually hurts high-schoolers' academic performance. Among the younger set, slight decreases in sleep make kids more likely to act out. A team of faux astronauts suffered a variety of sleep disturbances over the course of a 17-month simulated Mars mission.
