From: NPR
The Secret to Lasting Love Might Just Be Knowing How to Fight
February 14, 2025
If you love someone, learn how to fight with them.
Counterintuitive though it may seem, that’s the advice of world-renowned relationship researchers and clinical psychologists Julie Schwartz Gottman and John Gottman.
“Conflict really has a purpose,” says John Gottman, “and the purpose is mutual understanding.”
In the 40 years they’ve dedicated to the study and practice of fostering healthy, long-lasting relationships, the Gottmans have found that the happiest and most successful couples don’t avoid conflict, fear or anger – they just know how to fight fairly and productively.
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